This past ten days has been a truly interesting time. Last week Thursday I had a bicycle accident (someone cut me off and I had to turn to miss hitting them). Anyway, I wound up with a pretty good size cut on my nose (got 5 stitches to close it up!), broke my nose, and got some road rash on left arm. I had been on my way to work when it happened. Anyway, I was told to go to a specific type of doctor to get the stitches out, but with COVID 19 everywhere, and having no other form of transportation, there was no way that I could go 45 miles to get the stitches out.
So I texted one of my high school classmates, and she arranged for another classmate to come get the stitches out. She was able to get one of them out but had to call another former classmate to come help. The second nurse, who I had held a grudge against for many years, was able to get the remainder of the stitches out.
Today, April 11th, the second nurse came by with a gift, a bicycle helmet. I was quite surprised. Anyway, I apologized for the grudge I held against her for so many years. I have forgiven her, and she has forgiven me. It feels good to finally have that part of my past truly in the past now!
Something to think about: Bad feelings that we hold against someone are almost always worse for ourselves than the other person. The other person probably does not even realize that he or she has hurt you. It is better to forgive the person and move on. I can even say that after holding the bad feelings in for 36 years, that I truly feel better now, and she and I may actually become friends, something I was never able to consider becoming until now.
How can you work at forgiving yourself or others?